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Why has nobody told me this before by Julie Smith: book review

A clinical psychologist's guide to creating a meaningful life

Publisher ‏ : ‎ Michael Joseph Ltd (6 January 2022)

Language ‏ : ‎ English

Hardcover ‏ : ‎ 368 pages

Order your copy : Here


Drawing on years of experience as a clinical psychologist, online sensation Dr. Julie Smith provides the skills you need to navigate common life challenges and take charge of your emotional and mental health in her debut book.

Filled with secrets from a therapist's toolkit, Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? teaches you how to fortify and maintain your mental health, even in the most trying of times. Dr. Julie Smith's expert advice and powerful coping techniques will help you stay resilient, whether you want to manage anxiety, deal with criticism, cope with depression, build self-confidence, find motivation, or learn to forgive yourself. The book tackles everyday issues and offers practical solutions in bite-sized, easy-to-digest entries which make it easy to quickly find specific information and guidance.

Your mental well-being is just as important as your physical well-being. Packed with proven strategies, Dr. Smith's empathetic guide offers a deeper understanding of how your mind works and gives you the insights and help you need to nurture your mental health every day. Wise and practical, Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? might just change your life.


We want to achieve something substantial in our careers and want to give time and support to our family. But, sometimes, these two crucial parts of our life come at loggerheads with each other. Then starts the real drama!!

Everything comes crashing down so does our motivation to continue.

To begin with, Happiness or Being optimistic throughout our life isn’t a default mode, nor does low mood. We constantly move between different states of emotional conditions and that’s absolutely perfect.

Many people are scared to talk about their mental health in the fear of being judged by society and they might be missing some of the best coping mechanisms out there.

In her book, “Why has nobody told me this before?”, Dr. Julie Smith addresses some of the important spheres of our lives.

• Grief

• Motivation

• Stress

• Self-doubt

• Emotional pain

And so on.

She focuses on creating a life that aligns with our value system. She talks about setting up small targets and reflect how those are bringing us closer to our values. Further, she talks about how these values change over time and in turn create a new set of targets or goals to achieve.

What matters most here is how we adjust and balance ourselves in creating a “meaningful life”.

Often, we seek others' validation and forget how we are putting our well-being in the line of criticism and judgment. She explains, in one of her chapters how negative emotions toward others actually work and from where it stems. She has put forward ways how to filter out information from the environment so that we don’t crush our self-esteem.

Her book has provided various tools to introspect and identify emotions. These tools, if practiced will help in getting clarity.

I find this book very different in the sense that self-help books are. It just not provides on developing a positive mindset but also acts as a guidebook to navigate in our day-to-day life.


Dr. Julie Smith is a clinical psychologist with over a decade of professional experience. She is also an online educator and social media star with a combined following of more than 3 million. Julie launched her Tik Tok account to make her services more accessible; her posts on TikTok and Instagram have already amassed more than 20 million likes. She has appeared in two BBC films and on BBC Breakfast, CNN International, and Radio 5 Live and has written for The Mail on Sunday, The Evening Standard, and The Daily Telegraph.

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